By Jas Singh
Ten years in the recruitment industry has taught me a lot about what makes a successful interview.
And although there are lots of techniques that can and can’t work, there is one thing that no candidate should ever do in an interview situation.
Something that’s a sure fire way to repel other people.
And that is to whinge about their current employer.
If we are all truthful with ourselves, we’ve all had times when we feel the need to complain about things. People, circumstances, even the weather – anything – as long as it’s not ourselves of course.
But great leaders are different. You’ll rarely find them whinging.
Here are some reasons why great leaders never whinge.
I once met the CEO of a well known company who had been referred to me by a mutual contact. He was in the market considering opportunities. Throughout our entire meeting all he did was complain about how his current employer had recently cheated him of some money that had been promised to him.
At the end of meeting he’d got himself into such a state that he was literally sweating all over and extremely flushed. When we started to go into what kinds of opportunities he might be open to looking at moving forward, he was barely able to answer any questions.
How we spend our energy is often what determines our success. It’s our choice – to use PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) and spend energy constructively or use NMA (Negative Mental Attitude) and spend energy destructively.
Great leaders value their time and energy.
It repels others
Nothing empties a room faster than a serial whinger.
We all know people who we literally run to avoid so that we don’t have to listen to their endless stories of misfortune and hardship.
The ironic thing is that the people who whinge rarely have serious problems on the grand scheme of life. It’s usually all in their heads. The world is full of people complaining of imaginary illnesses and hardships, whilst the people who have truly challenging circumstances still great the world with smiles and hope every single day.
Countless bankers whinge about their bonuses. Yet millions of orphaned children still take joy in everything they do.
Great leaders understand that whinging is usually the result of self-importance, ego and even selfishness.
Attributes that will never be attractive to others.
It impedes success
Yet perhaps the most important reason why most great leaders rarely whinge is because they realize that it is perhaps one of the biggest barriers to achieving success.
You see, to reach the highest levels of achievement, it is essential to try and keep PMA at all times. When times are hard and persistence is required, what separates the greatest leaders from the rest of us is their ability to still remain positive and believing at all times.
Great leaders understand that whinging isn’t just a bunch of words that temporarily leave our lips.
When we express negative words and comments, these become ingrained in our subconscious mind and become part of who we are and what we do. Our thoughts and actions are linked. You can’t expect to have negative thoughts and take highly positive and inspirational action.
Great leaders don’t whinge because they want to keep their minds focused on success.
When things don’t go our way, most of us will look to blame something or someone else.
But great leaders realize whinging rarely achieves much.
Hiring managers can gain much from those people who spend less time whinging and more time focused on finding the right path to success. Do you know a whinger?
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